Belief and a Happy Family
Someone once shared with me how discouraged they were about their family—that their marriage was crumbling, that their children were ungrateful, that their family life was miserable. They said, “I used to believe that my life would be happy and now I’m not so sure.”
Belief is a precious thing. When we are encompassed by significant challenges, when our family is struggling, our marriage is not what we wish it to be, and our children are not perfect, remember that to believe is a verb that creates tremendous opportunity. If you believe that your marriage can be better, if you believe your children can be more grateful and respectful, if you believe your family life can be more happy and meaningful, you are ninety percent there.
Take that belief and create a vision of a loving marriage, a happy family, wonderful children, and then nurture this belief through your own actions. Be a loving spouse, be an example of a loving family by loving your family, and be a loving parent. The only person we can ever change is our self.
If we focus on becoming what a family needs, our ability to see the good in others increases and the result is often that people become what we hoped for. Is this because they changed or we changed? I believe that other people’s improvement is more often the result of our own change—the ability to appreciate them for who they are and recognize all the good qualities that they really have.
“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” --Gandhi
Consider Family Ever After by Michelle H. Packard for ideas on how to improve your family relationships.