JUN, 2013

Peace at Home

"Many voices from the world in which we live tell us we should live at a frantic pace. There is always more to do and more to accomplish. Yet deep inside each of us is a need to have a place of refuge where peace and serenity prevail, a place where we can reset, regroup, and reenergize to prepare for future pressures. 

"The ideal place for that peace is within the walls of our own homes . . . " --Richard G. Scott



JUN, 2013

Strong Values. Happy Families


The family is the fundamental unit of society. No program, agency, success, or initiative can compensate for failure in the home.

Children deserve to be raised in a loving home where a father and mother are committed to each other and to their family. No family is perfect, and certainly this arrangement isn't always attainable. But we believe this pattern is the ideal and always worth striving for.

Fathers and mothers, husbands and wives should work in harmony as equal partners to provide for the physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual needs of their families.

Happy family life is centered on compassion, education, forgiveness, hard work, love, respect, self-improvement, service, and quality time together.


For a good book on how to have strong families, consider Family Ever After.

JUN, 2013


What is truth? Robert Lewis Stevenson once said, "To tell the truth is not merely to state the facts but to convey true intent."

So often we seek to share just enough truth to slide by without full accountability or to dodge the important questions or to deflect blame to someone else. None of these build strong character or help people respect you. 

What type of respect or character do you want?

As Mark Twain said, "Tell the truth. That way you won't have to remember anything." 


JUN, 2013

You Don't Know #@$%!

An atheist was seated next to a little girl on an airplane and he turned to her and said, “Do you want to talk? Flights go quicker if you strike up a conversation with your fellow passenger.”

The little girl, who had just started to read her book, replied to the total stranger, “What would you like to talk about?”

“Oh, I don't know,” said the atheist. “How about why there is no God, or no Heaven or Hell, or no life after death?” as he smiled smugly.

“Okay,” she said. “Those could be interesting topics but let me ask you a question first. A horse, a cow, and a deer all eat the same stuff—grass. Yet a deer excretes little pellets, while a cow turns out a flat patty, but a horse produces clumps. Why do you suppose that is?”

The atheist, visibly surprised by the little girl's intelligence, thinks about it and says, “Hmmm, I have no idea.”

To which the little girl replied, “Do you really feel qualified to discuss God, Heaven and Hell, or life after death, when you don't know crap?”

What’s the point? When you are with family think twice about opening up those provocative conversations that lead to either frustration, anger, or looking totally stupid. 


JUN, 2013

Don't be Ironic

“Motor Vehicle Division.”

“Yes, I’ve lost my wallet with my driver’s license and I need to request a replacement. I’m in California working and don’t know when I can get to Utah.”

“Do you know your license number?”



“Christopher Robbins.”

“Birth date?”

“November 26, 1967.”

“Social Security number?”


“Yes, I see you in the database. However we need to verify that you are you. We need you to come in.”

“But you just said it was me.”

“Yes, but we need to verify that you are you and not someone else.”

“But I’m in California.”

“We understand. When can you come in?”

“I’m not sure. I’m working here.”

“Could you drive here in the next few weeks?”

“Uhhhhhh, I don’t have a driver’s license.”

“Well, you could take a train.”


Recommendation: when someone in your family has a challenge, work to solve the problem as quickly and as efficiently as possible and don’t let policy get in the way of the solution. 

JUN, 2013


An attitude of gratitude can make all the difference. Regardless of what challenges you face, what difficulties lie in your path, or what obstacles you see that seem insurmountable, there is always something to be grateful for. 

When you find it and focus on it, you will find your resolve strengthened. 

Gratitude is a an attribute that correctly aligns our emotions and helps us succeed. Be grateful.

What are you grateful for? 


Consider reading Family Ever After to learn ways to develop an attitude of gratitude. 

JUN, 2013

Happy Father's Day

JUN, 2013

It's Time to Reach Out

As fathers we often think Father's Day is about us. We can get worked up if our families don't provide the BBQ we hoped for or we get one more ugly tie or a stupid pair of socks. This is the wrong way to go about it.

Consider this: you're a father because of your kids. Rather than wait for them to remember you, why not reach out and honor their contribution to your fatherhood? Invert the day. Honor your children for helping you become a father. Without them the day would be meaningless. 

You've got two days to plan. Go for it. 


JUN, 2013

Bear Poop

My father would often pull me aside and say, "Son, let me tell you where the bear poops in the woods." 

Some fathers have a way with words that can be lost on their children. If you are a father, consider your words wisely so that you say what you mean and you mean what you say. 

Obviously, even after nearly fifty years, I'm still wondering why there's a specific location for bears to poop and what that has to do with the price of tea in China. 


JUN, 2013

Spend Time with Dad


We know that you want a happy family. Even when you're a grown up, are out of the house, are busy working in your important career, raising your own family, sharpening your golf game, jet setting around the world, it's important to spend time with your dad. 

Dad's have thick skin, but on the inside they hunger for those precious moments they had helping their sons and daughters grow. Honestly, Dads miss those little kids and aren't always sure what to do when their kids grow up. It's confusing to grow older and have your children out pace you in every way. You can feel left behind. 

Spend time with your dad. Work with him. Play with him. Sit with him. Let him know that the word "Dad" means something to you. Except for a few instances, most dads do the best they know how and they wish they could have done better. A kind word means the world to them.

And if your dad has passed on, celebrate his memory and the good things he did. He left a mark on this world--you. 


For some good books on fatherhood and parenting consider Angel Birthdays, Glad to Be Dad, Muddling Through, Dude to Dad, Lessons From My Parents, and Living in the Trenches.